Let me now talk about 'FLOW' or being “In The
Zone”
When an adult or child is deep in play, when they are
absorbed in a task, a game, work or a conversation then they are said
to be in “flow”. That's the name psychologists give it. People in
the 70's and 80's might have called it “being in the groove” or
“being in the zone”!!
Some people expend a lot of energy units trying to find
out HOW to be “in the zone”. It's got a lot to do with what you
are passionate about, what sparks your interest, what you love. So
children who are given freedom to spark in many directions will
naturally come across something that grabs their interest and want to
pursue it deeper. We have found one really good tool for this is
Pinterest – which if you haven’t heard of it is basically an
online, less messy version of having a scrapbook of pictures you
like.
Supervised use of the internet for older children can be
very beneficial for tools like Pinterest. The other day our daughter
said she’d like to get back into it after a break of a few months
(she has been extremely busy with playing the piano and sharing the
care of our new baby with me). I suggested she make a whole new
board. “Hmm .. what about?” she said. I rattled off some things
she’s been talking about lately, and some ideas off the top of my
head “topiary, hair styles, jewellery, stained glass, bags, art
supplies …” she had some ideas to run with and she worked very
happily until someone else wanted to use the computer. When I look
at my Pinterest boards I think how wonderful it is to have so many
rich and varied visuals of things I like – every basket, craft,
shoe, skirt, headcovering, doll, landscape, art idea – every
single picture is something I chose because it appealed to me. If,
one day, I am bored, then I can go to my Pinterest boards and be
inspired with something to do.
Actually, handcrafts are MAJORLY important in a person’s
life. Every child should have the opportunity to have a go at
various handcrafts. Charlotte Mason advised that those crafts should
be USEFUL and BEAUTIFUL. Look up Charlotte Mason – she’s got a
lot of good things to say about raising children.
When a child figures out what they are interested in,
what challenges and excites them then they can engage in an activity
and get in ‘flow’ or ‘in the zone'. We can never measure
brain growth and lessons in concentration and satisfaction gained
during these moments. But I believe we must trust that that being
‘in flow’ is VERY HEALTHY for adults and children alike.
WHAT CAN I PROVIDE FOR NATURAL HOME EDUCATION?
I believe the most precious things for a child are
1) time with a wise and knowledgeable person who loves
them and
2) time to be quiet and think, even if they want to
leave an activity suddenly because something has interested them so
greatly that they want to think it out quietly.
Put a lot of value on conversations, dialogue back and
forth, listening to what the children are thinking. Draw thoughts
from them, but be sensitive about whether to expound on their
thoughts or leave them alone. If a child is puzzling something out
they might not want a solution given to them. If someone is sharing
their dream they might not want an analysis made of it.
For some children it can be extremely challenging
communicating their thoughts. And it can also be very frustrating if
people try to rush them, guess what they are going to say, or try and
finish the end of their sentence. We have a child who struggles with
keeping thoughts in his brain if someone interrupts, or if his
thought process is interfered with in any way. He can't hang on to
the thought during the interruption. His mind goes blank. It
infuriates him.
In
closing I’d like to say that learning naturally with quirky
children often seems messy, chaotic, confusing and unfulfilling. But
just like this talk that started out as notes scribbled at 2am when I
was feeding the baby, and then morphed into a jumbled of typed notes,
eventually some order started to appear. It’s only when our
quirky children are older, and they thank you for not sending them to
school, thank you for giving them time and space to grow into who
they are, and they look at their quirky friends who did not have that
same freedom – then you see there was order, there was reason,
there was a massive amount of learning going on, and you’ll be
incredibly grateful you did it this way.
Our
quirky children can
possess abilities to achieve in some incredible areas like: ability
to concentrate, dependability, honesty, loyalty, analytical skills,
ability to become a different persona thereby entertaining and
teaching others, enthusiasm for subjects of interest, artistic,
mathematical … the list goes on, I have yet to the find the end!
So
if your child is quirky, or even if they are regular, but ESPECIALLY
if your child is quirky, please provide a safe and comfortable
childhood for them with just the right amount, but not an
overwhelming number of challenges. And when your quirky children
present you with all sorts of difficult behaviour every hour of the
day we MUST REMEMBER that we need to REJOICE in who our children are,
and do everything we can to allow their iridescence to shine.
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This ends the extremely lengthy series of articles from my early 2015 talk. Thanks for reading it - I hope you found something enjoyable/thought provoking/a blessing to your family. Please don't hesitate to leave a comment to encourage, or if necessary, tell me off for something I've said wrong!
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