Right upfront
in your parenting journey it's a great idea to agree together on
behaviour
that your family will not participate in, and why, so when a
situation arises you can decide where you are on the matter.
You could
make a list to discuss, and add more things as they come up
naturally, or as you see them happening to other people – things
like:
Would you
leave your children sitting in the car without you? I caution you to
NEVER leave your child or children alone in the car whist you go into
a shop. I
realise
the time and energy it takes to get children out of car seats and
into shops, but PLEASE don't leave them in the car. This needs to be
discussed between husband/wife/caregiver so everyone uses the same
rules.
How did you
used to feel about toddlers in restaurants before you had children?
And how do you feel about them now you’re a parent?
Are you
comfortable with leaving your child somewhere for an overnight stay?
.Would you
take your child to a public bar for a meal?
Would you
leave your child in the Children's area of the library while you go
the Adult area?
Is it right
to let children have freedom in shops to browse on their own while
you are in a totally different aisle? And when shopping with
children do you think it acceptable or unacceptable for children to
handle goods that are for sale?
Will your
family participate in or watch sporting events or take part in
competitions etc. Is your family concerned about the heart and soul
attitude that can come from entering into competitions against other
people?
Do you feel a
desire to start early with academics? As you will read later, I think
there's far too much other important stuff going on in the life of a
young child to waste on pushing them academically!
If you leave
your child with someone else are you confident that they are
responsible, morally sound and loving enough to protect, respect and
respond correctly to your child?
Are you
concerned when you enter an electronics shop and your child is
confronted with a wall of television screens that flash horrible
images onto their mind?
What sort of food are your family going to eat, and will there be room for making one-off decisions?
If there is
disagreement about any of these sorts of issues then it is much
healthier to work something out RIGHT NOW than to leave them in hopes
they might go away. You might both need time to think about them if a
united decision can't be made, but don't let it affect your
relationship in a damaging way, and don't let any disagreements upset
the children.
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